One of the biggest disappointments I see in parents eyes is when the child shows no signs of gratitude for everything that the parents are doing for them. I wake up early in the morning to cook lunch for school. Forget saying thank you he doesn’t even eat it.
I don’t have nice suits to wear in functions. I saved money so she can go to her singing /dancing classes. Now she tells me I don’t care for her?”I work all day for these children. I cook for them, clean their room, drop them to school, pick them up and if I ask them to do one thing for me and they just say no, just like that. Why should I have to fight every time I need to get something done.
Every time they need something they become sweet, and after the need is fulfilled they don’t even bother. Am I just a money machine for them. These are some reactions I get from parents when they come to me and worry about their behavior. I seem to be very common nowadays. Then what is the solution for this?
The simple way is to teach them gratitude. You teach them everything right from using bathrooms, how to count, how to eat, how to walk etc., you should also teach them how to be grateful to people as well. It’s that important in life.
Now people ask me how to teach gratitude, first learn to be grateful yourself, if you cant be grateful don’t even try teaching them. Children are very good at catching hypocrisy. Show it through your actions how grateful you are to your own parents for all those they did for you.
Talk not just about what you are doing for them, but also about what you’re going through inside. You need to educate them the personal cost what you are paying for their sake. but keep in mind that you should not say it in the attitude that you are doing everything for them as a favor.
If you want them to notice your effort, sit with them every day or an alternative day or at least on Sunday ask them in the past one week what are the things that you are thankful for towards you and their dad. They need to sit back and think. Make them write the things they are grateful for towards you on a paper. Make it concrete. It will become routine and sink in well. Make gratitude a religion. Practice yourself and teach your children consistently